Written by Monique Jordan-Cave

Your Career Bestie

Emotional Resilience At Work

Hello, friend,

Let’s get something straight, fellow soul leader—you can be killing it in meetings, slaying pitch decks, and still have a tiny part of you crying inside because someone didn’t text back.

Yup, that’s your inner child, and whether you know it or not, they’re running the show more than you think.

Reparenting your inner child isn’t some woo-woo trend you scroll past on Instagram and forget.

It’s a practical, transformational mindset shift that can change the way you lead, love, and live.

Especially if you’re juggling tight deadlines, creative demands, and that sneaky little thing called imposter syndrome.

Let’s dive into what reparenting really means, why it matters, and how to actually do it (without needing to move to the Himalayas).

1. So... What the Heck is Reparenting?

Think of reparenting as giving your inner child the love, boundaries, and validation they didn’t always get growing up.

It’s not about blaming your parents or wallowing in old wounds. It’s about healing forward.

Your inner child is that emotional part of you that never quite grew up.

They show up when:

❌ You panic when someone criticises you.

❌ You overachieve to feel worthy.

❌ You ghost conflict like it’s a toxic ex.

Reparenting helps you:

✅ Respond instead of react

✅ Build real self-trust

✅ Break cycles that don’t serve your career (or relationships)

Why it matters: If you’re a manager or creative pro who constantly questions yourself, people-pleases to the point of burnout, or avoids setting boundaries like the plague—your inner child needs your attention, not another spreadsheet.

2. Signs Your Inner Child is in the Driver’s Seat (And You’re Just Along for the Ride)

You’re not crazy. You’re triggered.

And that trigger?

It probably has less to do with your boss and more to do with your unmet childhood needs.

Red flags your inner child is calling the shots:

🚩 You crave external validation like it’s your morning coffee

🚩 You fear abandonment or rejection at work

🚩 You take things way too personally

🚩 You overwork to feel enough (hello, perfectionism)

Here’s the kicker: You can’t outwork wounds. You can’t hustle your way to healing.

Reparenting is the internal upgrade your leadership style has been screaming for.

3. How to Start Reparenting Your Inner Child (No Crystals Required)

Let’s keep it simple and soul-shifting. Here are three foundational steps to begin:

1. Recognise the voice of your inner child

That voice that says, "Don’t mess this up or they won’t like you"? That’s not your wise, grounded adult self.

That’s the scared 7-year-old who got picked last in gym class.

Start noticing when you’re:

🤔 Reacting emotionally to minor issues

🤔 Avoiding hard convos out of fear

🤔 Seeking approval more than truth

2. Respond with compassion

Would you yell at a crying child?

Nope.

So stop doing it to yourself.

When that tender part of you surfaces, try this:

👍 Take a breath

👍 Name the feeling ("I’m feeling rejected")

👍 Reassure yourself ("I’m safe and worthy even if they disagree")

3. Rebuild trust through new habits

Inner safety isn’t just a vibe—it’s built through consistent action.

Show your inner child that you’ve got you now:

👉 Set boundaries and stick to them

👉 Speak up when your needs aren’t met

👉 Prioritise rest without guilt

Remember: You are the grown-up now. And you get to be the parent your inner child always needed.

4. Why This Inner Work Makes You a Better Leader (and Human)

Here’s where the magic happens. When you reparent your inner child, everything shifts.

You become more emotionally resilient.

You don’t crumble when someone disagrees. You learn to self-soothe, not self-sabotage.

You lead from authenticity, not anxiety.

People can smell fear. They can also feel grounded leadership. You stop people-pleasing and start truth-speaking.

You connect deeper with others.

Whether it’s your team or your partner, healed humans have healthier relationships.

Bonus?

You model emotional intelligence that actually inspires people. That’s next-level leadership.

5. Daily Reparenting Practices to Transform Your Inner Dialogue

This isn’t a one-and-done.

Reparenting is a daily invitation to check in and tune up.

Here are a few micro-moves to work into your day:

📝 Morning mantra: "I am safe, I am loved, I am enough"

📝 Inner child check-in: Pause midday and ask, "What do you need right now?"

📝 Boundaries script: Practice saying, "That doesn’t work for me, let’s find another way"

📝 Journal prompt: What did I need to hear as a child that I can tell myself today?

These small shifts create massive ripples.

This Isn’t Soft Work—It’s Soul Work

Reparenting your inner child is not about fixing what’s broken.

It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be.

It’s brave. It’s healing. It’s powerful.

And it’s the best investment you can make in your career and your peace.

💡 What would shift in your life if you showed up every day as the loving, protective parent your inner child always needed?

Let me know in the comments below.

Over to you!

MJx

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